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Effect of invisible (hidden) disability on relationship

Most couples experience predictable problems at different stages of each individual’s life and stages of the relationship. Couples where one or both partners experience invisible chronic illness/disability experience the same problems, only more so and in additional ways.

PREACHING TO THE CHOIR.

If you’re reading this chances are I’m not going to change your mind; we probably think alike anyway . Just in case . . . As if you needed proof that much more rhetoric needs to be on the stigma of mental health, just listen to this factoid from the National Institutes of Health: “Of the 32,000 deaths per year from gun violence in the U.S., more than 60% are […]

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Menopause Awareness Month: Let’s Start Something

Originally posted on MiddlesexMD Blog:
My car’s license plate reads “HOTFLAS.” I take it for granted, until someone rolls down his window to talk to me at a stop sign. “Hey, I like your license plate,” he says. “You must be about 50. Wow, my wife is going through that. It’s really tough. It’s been a real challenge.” Only a few days later, I was meeting with a colleague from…

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This Teen Knows When Apology Is Not Enough

Originally posted on Long Distance Love Life Of A Teen:
I wrote a post yesterday about the frustration when my boyfriend does not apologise, and how it makes me feel, and despite believing I’d never get an apology…I got one before the end of the day. However, it didn’t solve anything for me.  Feelings of hurt didn’t magically disappear, nor did the frustration.  Yet, if I say ‘your apology means…

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DO YOU NEED YOUR THERAPIST TO BE HUMAN?

“I can’t work with someone who’s broken,” he said calmly. The young man had just read my Disclosure, a description of rights that, as a Marriage & Family Therapist, I’m legally required to give all clients.  Although it isn’t necessary, my Disclosure also relates that I have multiple sclerosis; I don’t want clients to wonder whether my stumbling is about a liquid lunch. Broken, he said.  Broken.  I never imagine […]

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RUNNING BLIND

Super-star athletes are polishing their personas with the advent of the Summer Olympics to be held in Rio de Janeiro in 2016.  One of them, Jamaican mega-medal winner Usain Bolt, has the gracefulness of a natural athlete. With his perpetual smile and generally good nature, Bolt is no pushover. One doesn’t get the impression that Usain Bolt would promote something disagreeable. Despite his gifts, or maybe because of them, Bolt also demonstrates a remarkably generous spirit, e.g., his […]

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Sex and Alzheimer’s: A Tangled Web

Originally posted on MiddlesexMD Blog:
No conversation about dementia is easy, especially when it regards someone you love. Talking about sex is no piece of cake, either. But any conversation about Alzheimer’s or dementia ought to include sex. Because sex will very likely be an issue that caregivers have to deal with at some point. A recent patient told me that sex remains a very special connection with her husband,…

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