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7 TRUTHS ABOUT COUPLES THERAPY

Junk. That’s the name I give to those reams of paper already printed on one side, fit only for recycling.  The remains of old binders of stuff from grad school account for this week’s batch of junk paper for my printer. Like a paper I’d written almost 20 years ago:  Assumptions, Approaches and Issues in Marital Therapy:  A Personal Definition. Amazingly, what I believed then, minus the naïveté and lack […]

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WHO TELLS YOU YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL?

    Years ago David and I were in Texas for the funeral of his mother who had died only two days short of her 94th birthday. Although David and his sisters were far busier than I was, those four days were nevertheless fatiguing for me.  So when we boarded the bus from the car rental center back to the terminal I was off-balanced and tired. “What you doin’ luggin’ […]

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GUEST POST: 4 Ways That Tech Can Help People With Disabilities Reach Their Career Goals

by Patrick Young, AbleUSA Are you living with a disability and looking for a career boost? Then upgrading to the latest tech could be the secret to unlocking your professional potential. You only need one essential piece of tech to harness the latest accessibility and productivity tools: a smartphone. So here are the best ways to put that little piece of tech in your pocket to work to enhance your […]

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A Great Murmur Arises on New Year’s Eve

For the Babylonians and Romans the new year was a sobering event, a time to renew allegiance to pagan gods, emperors, kings. The consequences for making unrealistic and unkept promises to a pantheon like that had teeth, by Zeus! There’ve been no teeth for a long time.  We might as well be gumming to death our intentions for all they mean to achieving concrete consequences.  Pledges about mental health and wellness […]

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PREACHING TO THE CHOIR.

If you’re reading this chances are I’m not going to change your mind; we probably think alike anyway . Just in case . . . As if you needed proof that much more rhetoric needs to be on the stigma of mental health, just listen to this factoid from the National Institutes of Health: “Of the 32,000 deaths per year from gun violence in the U.S., more than 60% are […]

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Menopause Awareness Month: Let’s Start Something

Originally posted on MiddlesexMD Blog:
My car’s license plate reads “HOTFLAS.” I take it for granted, until someone rolls down his window to talk to me at a stop sign. “Hey, I like your license plate,” he says. “You must be about 50. Wow, my wife is going through that. It’s really tough. It’s been a real challenge.” Only a few days later, I was meeting with a colleague from…

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This Teen Knows When Apology Is Not Enough

Originally posted on Long Distance Love Life Of A Teen:
I wrote a post yesterday about the frustration when my boyfriend does not apologise, and how it makes me feel, and despite believing I’d never get an apology…I got one before the end of the day. However, it didn’t solve anything for me.  Feelings of hurt didn’t magically disappear, nor did the frustration.  Yet, if I say ‘your apology means…

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DO YOU NEED YOUR THERAPIST TO BE HUMAN?

“I can’t work with someone who’s broken,” he said calmly. The young man had just read my Disclosure, a description of rights that, as a Marriage & Family Therapist, I’m legally required to give all clients.  Although it isn’t necessary, my Disclosure also relates that I have multiple sclerosis; I don’t want clients to wonder whether my stumbling is about a liquid lunch. Broken, he said.  Broken.  I never imagine […]

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RUNNING BLIND

Super-star athletes are polishing their personas with the advent of the Summer Olympics to be held in Rio de Janeiro in 2016.  One of them, Jamaican mega-medal winner Usain Bolt, has the gracefulness of a natural athlete. With his perpetual smile and generally good nature, Bolt is no pushover. One doesn’t get the impression that Usain Bolt would promote something disagreeable. Despite his gifts, or maybe because of them, Bolt also demonstrates a remarkably generous spirit, e.g., his […]

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ON BEING A DAD

Created for the XLIX Super Bowl, Toyota has tapped the touchy-feely market by pairing pro football players with their children in a series of commercials about being a father. There’s no question that how a child is parented makes an enormous difference in how a child develops. Numerous studies have shown the relationship between early childhood trauma, abuse, and in utero treatment of the unborn fetus and the mental and physical health of […]

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