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CASTING A SPELL: EASIER THAN YOU THINK

Casting a spell is done by the lovers among us; no exorcism needed.   Anyone who’s had a broken heart knows words and potions don’t work anyway.  And, unless you’re a crazy cat lady, the likelihood of being under the spell of a lover’s words is far greater than being enchanted by a black cat. Loving someone calls out parts of us untouched by anything else. Loving and being loved is the genesis […]

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WHEN A CAREGIVER DIES

    First published on Disability.gov For 70 years she put up with his (sometimes volcanic) rumblings.  He doted on her with diamonds, and was a poorer father for it. The youngest of 5 much older siblings, she was babied into being passive and timid.  He was a blustering bad boy who loved control; a lifelong natural at most things mechanical.  He took seriously his duties as a man, a spouse, […]

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3 WORDS MEN HATE TO HEAR

  Women, can you think of the last time your man brought up something that bugged him about you? Maybe it was that you talked to your friends too much, your mother too much, or him too much. But unless really, really pushed – like during an argument – men aren’t usually relationship-complainers; at least mine isn’t. It’s not that women do more talking than men – that truism got […]

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50 YEARS LATER: IS MARRIAGE A WEAPON IN THE WAR ON POVERTY?

If nothing else, after 50 years fighting poverty, one thing’s clear:  America hasn’t found the right WMD. Poverty’s still the winner. Among the most ill-advised social programs developed to counteract the effects of single parenthood on women is one that promoted marriage as an effective weapon.   While it’s true that a healthy, stable marriage between two committed people helps in the battle against hopelessness and helplessness, there may be […]

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READ IN 92 COUNTRIES!

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog. A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 3,500 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 58 trips to carry that many people. Wowee zowie! There’s still a long way to go in making people aware of invisible disabilities.  And that so many of us experience […]

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‘TIS THE SEASON TO LOSE BIG CLUMPS OF HAIR

“God bless us, every one.” I think Tiny Tim got really chilled waiting in line on Black Friday. And Cyber Monday. Come to think of it, somebody told me he was at the mall the other day, too.  Amazing, since he hit the deck real hard when he lost a tug of war over some on-sale Levi’s.  Gotta give him credit for gettin’ back on the horse. Poor guy. We […]

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OLD LOVE LETTERS FROM YOUR PAST: GOOD FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.

I’d forgotten all about them, so when my husband plunked down dusty, dirty old boxes for me to go through, I inwardly groaned at more work.  What I found caused me to turn off the TV, plop down on the floor, and get teary. Some things are personal.  It’s okay, healthy even, to keep private some things, especially from your partner.  You disrespect all three of you by telling all, […]

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THE BUSINESS OF A TOGETHER BUSINESS

Coming on the exhausted heels of Black Friday, Saturday the 30th is Small Business Saturday®. As most men will agree, the only thing more bracing than Black Friday shopping is more shopping. This isn’t big-name, big-box stuff.   Small Business Saturday® encourages consumers to SHOP SMALL®.   American Express developed the program as a way to help small businesses market themselves.  While the financial giant’s small biz bolstering is less than […]

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WOMEN’S LIB IS A LIE

Speaking from a disabled woman’s point of view, living the “lib lie” in relationship simply doesn’t work. The “lib lie” I’m talking about is putting career before relationship, being damned if I’ll make cacciatore, or being complimented for how I look. Where was my head all these years.  I’ll tell you where: in the conference room, the kitchen, and in front of the mirror. Truth be told, I like making […]

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