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RAISING KIDS WHEN YOU HAVE AN INVISIBLE DISABILITY

Hannah & Mariah

I’ve heard it said, “You don’t have (fill in the blank) so how can you understand?”

It’s as if the problems, or even the pleasures, we have can be had by no one else, evvverrr in the history of mankind.  That kind of magical thinking is why we can’t imagine our parents having had sex.  While that image isn’t one we want to conjure, trust me on this, they did have sex.  And if you have a sib or two, they had sex at least more than once.   As a speaker once asked, “How many of you have biological parents?”

As a Marriage & Family therapist without children, I’ve been asked if I have kids.  Actually, I have hundreds — I’ve been a middle school teacher and  I’m still a therapist.  It’s all about relationship.  

Though not written with disabled parent(s) in mind, it might as well be; the information applies that well.  So I’m passing along info about this great site I know:  if you’re concerned about raising kids who know a moral dilemma fr0m a bag of gummi bears, read this.  Written by Jean Tracy, MSS, a proven parenting expert, it’s chock full of all kinds of freebies, including videos. Mostly it’s got great information you can actually use.

PLUS, I’m the guest blogger.  “6 Parenting Behaviors That Make A Difference When Raising Girls” See if I’m any good!

Thanks to www.bryce7blog.blopgspot.com for loaning Hannah & Mariah!

3 Stress Solutions for Busy Parents with Active Kids

by Jean Tracy, MSS, Syndicated Writer for Idea Marketers

Parenting and stress go hand in hand when kids are busy. If you’re a tired
parent, don’t let stress weigh you down like a bag of hammers. Look inside for
our 3 solutions for dropping the hammers and enjoying your life.
First Stress Problem for Parents
Let’s say you have 3 kids. Each child has an after school fall, winter, and
spring activity. That’s 9 after school activities a year. You’re the driver. How
do you buy the groceries, do the laundry, start the dinner, monitor homework,
and get the kids to bed? Do you have a stress headache? Do you have the energy
you need to do it all? Is this what being a good parent is all about?
First Stress Solution for Busy Parents with Active Kids
Did you know those activities are heavy hammers? You don’t have to put each
child in an activity 3 times a year to be a good parent. Why not allow each
child one activity a year and no more?
One child may choose autumn soccer. Another child may take on winter
basketball. The third child might sign up for spring track. The rule is, only
one activity per child per year and never at the same time. Discuss changes at
the Family Meeting.
Now look in your bag and toss out 6 of the 9 hammers. You won’t be driving 3
kids to 3 activities 3 times a year. Doesn’t that feel better? Whew! Discuss
changes at the Family Meeting. Imagine more family life at home too.
Second Stress Problem for Parents
You’ve rid yourself of 6 hammers but you still have to drive one child to
sports, get the groceries, and fix dinner. Your head aches less but it’s not
gone.
Second Stress Solution for Busy Parents with Active Kids
Ask yourself, “Who said I have to do it all?” You don’t. Here’s what you can
do. Teach your kids how to start dinner, perhaps make salads. The 2 kids at home
can take turns making the salad and setting the table.
Toss out 2 more hammers. You’ll have taught the kids two important skills.
They’re pitching in now. You’re becoming a family team. How’s the headache?
Third Stress Problem for Parents
You still have one hammer, supervising homework. Making sure they brought it
home, know how to do it, and then doing it can be stressful. What to do?
Third Stress Solution for Busy Parents with Active Kids
While you fix the rest of dinner, the kids start their homework. No TV or
video games. The oldest kid can help the younger two and start his/her own
homework. After dinner they clean the kitchen and finish their homework. You put
in a load of laundry. When done, take time to play a family game. Discuss
changes at the Family Meeting.

Conclusion for Busy Parents with Active Kids

Parents, you don’t have to do it all. Allow one activity per child per year.
Teach your kids to start the dinner and set the table. Get the older child to
supervise the younger kids’ homework. Give each child the good feeling of being
needed, helping, and being a part of the best team ever, the family team. Drop
the hammers. Play family games. Enjoy being the parent. You’ll be a better
parent too.
Feel free to use this article in your newsletters, blogs, etc. when you
include the following information:
I invite you to claim your FREE instant access to my Child
Discipline Online E-course
Your FREE 80 Activities to Play with Your Kids and FREE
Parenting Newsletter are waiting for you at www.KidsDiscuss.com Have fun with your
kids every day.- From the desk of Jean Tracy, MSS

Categories: Effect of invisible (hidden) disability on relationship

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