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“I’M MARRYING YOU FOR YOUR BOOBS.”

Check it out; Hef’s getting married again!  How many women do you think he’s asked who’ve said “no”?  That might be a more interesting interview than talking to the one(s) who said “yes”.

Anyway.  Ludicrous as this is, and it is ludicrous, we’ve asked for it.

We’re into fantasy and romance (clearly the two of them have gone in for both of those); no wonder couples get into relationship trouble in the real world if they think that is the real world.  Reality’s a drudge; it’s hard; it’s not glamorous; it’s too often penny-wise and pound-foolish.  Although that doesn’t mean as much as it used to when what we weigh today is fluff.

The real world is the 20 year old Sleeping Beauty whose real-life break-up still hasn’t given her a wake-up call. Or the very religious guy who seriously described how he would never marry somone disabled. Seriously. I expected as much from the to-die-for-in-high-school-guy whose good looks weren’t enough to float him out of the shallow end of the pool.  It’s the young man who told me he couldn’t work with a “broken” therapist and the woman who angrily emailed me after she abruptly quit therapy, partly because I should use my walker because it bothered her that I stumbled.  It’s sad, but true that most of us don’t get to wear jammies to work.

So here’s to ya, Hef. We need you. We need your example because it lets us know that being sexy and desirable disregards age or physical attributes. You’re a wonderful role model and I thank you. And congratulations to the bride-to-be.   By marrying you, she shows us, just like Anna Nicole did, that love truly does conquer all.

Kathe Skinner is a psychotherapist living, well, with m.s.

Categories: Effect of invisible (hidden) disability on relationship

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