Sex and Alzheimer’s: A Tangled Web
Sex and Alzheimer’s: A Tangled Web.
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3 WORDS MEN HATE TO HEAR
Women, can you think of the last time your man brought up something that bugged him about you? Maybe it was that you talked to your friends too much, your mother too much, or him too much. But unless really, really pushed – like during an argument – men aren’t usually relationship-complainers; at least mine isn’t. It’s not that women do more talking than men – that truism got […]
50 YEARS LATER: IS MARRIAGE A WEAPON IN THE WAR ON POVERTY?
If nothing else, after 50 years fighting poverty, one thing’s clear: America hasn’t found the right WMD. Poverty’s still the winner. Among the most ill-advised social programs developed to counteract the effects of single parenthood on women is one that promoted marriage as an effective weapon. While it’s true that a healthy, stable marriage between two committed people helps in the battle against hopelessness and helplessness, there may be […]
IT BEGINS AGAIN. HOLIDAY SHOPPING GUIDE FOR 2014
I love presents; who doesn’t? Wrapped or unwrapped, gifts can be delightful. And while this holiday giving season is over, shopping for next year’s holiday has already begun. My gift to you is a gift-giving guide of sorts. Garnered from over a quarter-century of giving presents great and small here are some pointers: Buy now based on later. That little boy will be a year older by time the next […]
THE RORSCHACH WENCH.
I keep a book in my office and if I had a coffee table, it would be on it. It’s red, with a coffee spill down the front that’s dried into a Rorschach-kind of thing. Nifty for it to be in a therapist’s office. Inside, dozens of clients have written their “should’s”. It’s not instructive to describe what they said; more than likely, their self-flagellations are the same as yours. […]
WOMEN’S LIB IS A LIE
Speaking from a disabled woman’s point of view, living the “lib lie” in relationship simply doesn’t work. The “lib lie” I’m talking about is putting career before relationship, being damned if I’ll make cacciatore, or being complimented for how I look. Where was my head all these years. I’ll tell you where: in the conference room, the kitchen, and in front of the mirror. Truth be told, I like making […]
A PRETTY BIG BUTT
Doing work you’re passionate about has been the imperative for years now. This, despite the contined high unemployment rate, a rate that doesn’t even reflect people who gave up trying to find work years ago. Ironically, they’re called the “invisible unemployed” and there’s about 86 million of them. Like the “invisibly disabled”, both are a large part of our society where the “invisible” part suggests monkeys with hands over their […]
THE JURY’S OUT.
I’m a fine one to talk. “All change implies the acceptance of loss” is the line I berate my coaching and psychotherapy clients with. Loss of function with invisible disability carries with it more than just the loss of “being able to…” It’s how others’ attitudes might change. Or how communication in a relationship — married or not — is impacted. Recently emailing with a colleague, another permutation appeared: “All loss […]
THE DISABLED EMPEROR’S NEW CLOTHES
Lots of us with disabilities, hidden or not, feel as if we’re a burden. Needing assistance with basic tasks, like getting from one place to the other, feels like a loss of independence. Depending on our experience with that quality, a loss like that can be emotionally upsetting. Thus, we want and need to believe that relationships are unaffected. In the story of the Emperor’s New Clothes, swindlers were able […]
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