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50 YEARS LATER: IS MARRIAGE A WEAPON IN THE WAR ON POVERTY?

If nothing else, after 50 years fighting poverty, one thing’s clear:  America hasn’t found the right WMD. Poverty’s still the winner. Among the most ill-advised social programs developed to counteract the effects of single parenthood on women is one that promoted marriage as an effective weapon.   While it’s true that a healthy, stable marriage between two committed people helps in the battle against hopelessness and helplessness, there may be […]

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THE RORSCHACH WENCH.

I keep a book in my office and if I had a coffee table, it would be on it. It’s red, with a coffee spill down the front that’s dried into a Rorschach-kind of thing.  Nifty for it to be in a therapist’s office. Inside, dozens of clients have written their “should’s”. It’s not instructive to describe what they said; more than likely, their self-flagellations are the same as  yours. […]

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A PRETTY BIG BUTT

Doing work you’re passionate about has been the imperative for years now. This, despite the contined high unemployment rate, a rate that doesn’t even reflect people who gave up trying to find work years ago. Ironically, they’re called the “invisible unemployed” and there’s about 86 million of them.  Like the “invisibly disabled”, both are a large part of our society where the “invisible” part suggests monkeys with hands over their […]

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WANNA BE HEALTHIER? EAT DINNER TOGETHER AS A FAMILY.

Overwhelmingly, the percentage of people I see in my psychotherapy practice don’t sit down together as a family at dinnertime. Could this be an indicator of family and personal health and well-being?  In a word, “yes”. When parental schedules revolve around their children’s, the result is that every weeknight and most weekends are taken up with a child’s activities. Not only doesn’t the family eat together, they may rarely be […]

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BEING INTENTIONAL: HOW DID I GET HERE?

The autopilot in us keeps us so far from making choices that our lives go by like getting to work — can’t even remember how we got there. I tell myself that if life wasn’t so full and whirling I’d be more of a participant instead of bystanding   But getting in “the flow” isn’t singular and it isn’t the same for each of us.  While I suspect that lots of us […]

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How Come It’s “We’re Pregnant” But It’s Not “We’re Disabled”?

I don’t know when it became fashionable to identify pregnancy as an adventure à deux.  It always seemed lopsided that pregnancy excluded men from throwing up, having swollen ankles and shrewish moods.  I’m not even talking about all those forever changes like stretch marks, a bigger butt, and wider hips.  With the possibility of gestational diabetes, postpartum depression, or miscarriage, the adventure becomes a challenge, albeit one that affects the […]

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